If you have then great, if you haven’t then sharpen your pencil and get to it! Unless you know what it is that you are heading for how can you ensure you succeed?
The true art of goal setting is being able to see the prize, imagining what it will feels like and living the moment.
This takes practice & most people struggle to start with.
Step 1 – decide what it is that you want, but be specific, I want to lose weight is not enough, I want to lose a stone just isn’t exciting. Something like I want to wear that red dress at the back of the wardrobe, or I want to wear a bikini on the beach in June, or I want to be a size 8 in front of everyone on my 40th birthday, whatever it is make it sexy and exciting!
Step 2 – Next get an old picture of you wearing the dress, or the bikini catalogue, or a pair of size 8 jeans and stick them all over the show! Stick reminders of your goal everywhere, your mirror, your car, and your bedside – YOUR FRIDGE! Everywhere and anywhere.
Step 3 – Now you need a little imagination, visualize where are you wearing the dress, who is with you, how do you feel? Spending 5 minutes at the beginning & end of each day keeps your goals alive.
Close your eyes and relax, now see yourself walking into the room, feel yourself standing tall, hear the music or chatter of people. What are people saying about you?
Or feel yourself slipping into size 8 jeans, doing them up easily and feeling comfortable.
If at first you find imagining the scenario difficult break it down, play it like a movie in your head. The more you practice the easier this becomes.
Step 4 – Chant your mantra, this should be a few words that sum up your goal, such as
Size 8 at 40,
Look at me now
Bikini on the beach
Probably the most famous example of this is when Kate Moss told us how she manages her weight with the mantra “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” and she is right, think about it……
Does the few minutes it takes to devour a bar of dairy milk feel anywhere near as good as slipping on a pair of jeans, a size smaller than normal and feeling good in them? That feeling lasts all day long, how long did that dairy milk last?
Is eating a whole triple cheese pizza as satisfying as shopping for clothes and asking if they have it in a smaller size?
What’s better opening your wardrobe and being able to wear anything inside as it all fits or another bottle of wine this evening?
Step 5 – be the person you want to be NOW! Don’t wait until you are a size whatever or you weigh how much, live like the new you now. Be the thinner, healthier person you want to become. Eat like them, walk like them, talk like them – go where they go, do what they do and before you know it you will be wearing what they wear!
Lastly, keep your eye on the prize and spend time feeling your success – these techniques are used by some of the world’s most successful people from sports people feeling themselves winning and hearing the crowds as they receive their medal (Mohammad Ali is famous for his accounts of this) to multimillionaires seeing themselves closing the deal.
See it, hear it, smell it – live it!